My Dad died a little over a year ago...15th June, 2010.
He died of lung cancer (he had not smoked for over 30 years) - it was a 2 year battle full of ups and downs. He died exactly 2 years, to the day, after he was diagnosed.
I don't really know where to begin... Yes, I'm getting on with life - I have two small children and a wonderful husband. I also have my mum and two younger brothers. Like I said, I'm getting on with things... Well, trying to anyway... :(
I'm so sad and so ANGRY! :( The anger is something I can't quite seem to shake... I'm angry for lots of reasons - the fact that Dad isn't here, the stuff he will miss out on, and I'm angry at the people that disappeared while he was sick...
The people I thought were close and would be there for us, were nowhere to be seen... :(
They are members of my extended family and I have not seen them since Dad died. I can't bring myself to see them... :(
The worst times for me are when I'm driving alone in my car, on the way to and from work... It's really the only time I am on my own, and I get so emotional. Certain songs make me miserable... :(
I need help and ideas on how to get rid of this anger I feel... Anyone? Kind regards...
Death of a Father Response:
Charlotte,
Dealing with the death of a father isn't easy...
I know this is a tough time. My mom and my 3 aunts went through this when my grandfather died. I saw their pain and it's tough to help in a time like this.
What I can offer you is that over time, over the years, the pain begins to dissipate as you remember your dad for the wonderful person he was (is?).
I would love to know if this Abraham Hicks video on death of a father/parents helps you:
by Daniel Garang Aluk Dinyo
(Awiel north bahargazal state, Sudan)
Death cannot be avoided but it is so hard to lose the ones you love.
Actually it was a very sad experience when I heard from Mom that my Dad can't breath, at that night, the twelfth of December 2010.
I was awake til the next morning and crying almost all the night.
But at the last I realized that we can't escape the death and the important thing we should do is to encourage family and wait for our time to follow them too.
So, no life without death and no death without life as well.
Well this all started yesterday, I came home and my mom took me in my room and told me....
sense then I have been filled with sorrow..
my grandfather was a great man not only that but he was loyal too... I miss him with all my heart but I know deep down inside he wasn't happy.
He went for surgery for cancer I think and was just fine but i'm assuming not good enough...
but after I saw something that really took my eye it was a poem that said "I think of life as a gift from God and if God wishes to take it back we shouldn't argue" and I think this is 100% true.
So if anyone out there is dealing with pain like I am right now think of that poem. It kind of got me through it, i'm not saying that i'm not upset because I still am...
ever have the feeling after someone dies that it's only a dream?
Well this is what i'm feeling right now... :( miss ya Gramp
