Guilt Feeling – Stop Focusing on Feeling Guilt
Guilt really is a form of self-directed anger. It’s self-punishment.
Usually, you’re punishing yourself for something you did or didn’t do in your past.
Whether you’re reflecting on what happened twenty minutes ago or twenty years ago, that guilt you’re feeling is coming from something in your past, right?
Falling into the trap of self-anger is destructive.
It causes you to feel sadness and dread. It brings in feelings of being unworthy or a sense of worthlessness.
“How could you have been so stupid?” – This is the type of self-talk that’s usually going on when the guilt feeling hits you.
Clear the Air With Loved Ones
Many times, the feelings of guilt are based around a relationship.
You feel as if you’ve harmed someone you care about in some way.
Maybe you said something that has festered for too long. Maybe you abandoned a relationship for one reason or another and feel guilty because you wonder what the other person thinks about that.
Maybe you haven’t kept in contact the way you know you should. This list could go on and on.
Whatever it is you’re centering on, you sit around and wonder things like, “How badly did I hurt them?” – “Are they still upset with me?” – “Why did I do that?” – “I should have done things differently.”
If you’re torturing yourself in this manner, it’s time to do something about it. It’s time to talk to that person and just clear the air.
You know what you’re most likely to find? The person you’re feeling guilty over will probably tell you that you didn’t hurt them in the severe manner you’re continually ruining your mind with worry over.
And they’ll most likely forgive you.
If you did hurt them severely, you’ll never allow them to heal if you never take that first step toward forgiveness. Clear the air and ask for forgiveness. If they’re not ready, it’s now in their court and you’ve got to move on by forgiving yourself and healing the guilt.
Decide to Think in a Healthy Way
Whatever you’re feeling guilt over, you’ve got to realize that you have the power to change things in a positive manner.
Guilt is so negative and paralyzing. It can cloud your mind to the point where you can’t break free of its grip.
It’s time for you to “problem solve” rather than “problem obsess”. Gain control over your thinking… begin to figure out what your soul needs in order for you to be free of the guilt feeling.
Meditate on the issue. Begin paying attention to your dreams at night, as your subconscious will often tell you what you need if you’ll only pay attention.
Remember that as with all of life’s challenges, you decide whether to allow guilt to control you or not. Right now, you’re unconsciously deciding to lose yourself in negative thoughts and feelings.
It’s time for you to consciously become awake and aware. As you do, your mind begins to clear up and solutions present themselves.
It’s never too late for you to go through this process of healing the guilt you feel. But you must decide to begin a new way of filtering your thoughts in a way that allows for the healing to take place.
Change your life,
Matt
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