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I lost my best friend, my one true love, my soul-mate

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Jun 17, 2011
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Cont. from "If only Magic Words..."
by: Meghan

The last and most important thing to remember is that God is not punishing you or trying to smite you for anything and he is always there for you. This is something I struggled with for a long time and it drug me down so much. God has a much bigger plan than any of us can see right now and even though it feels like your alone right now, your never alone with God. He is always with you and if you let him heal your pain he will. Don't give up, you will make it through this and it will leave you a stronger person if you let it. You are in my thoughts and prayers. "You never know how strong you are until you have no other choice but to pull through the trials and tribulations of life."

Jun 17, 2011
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If only magic words really existed...
by: Meghan

I wish i could tell you something that will make your hurt vanish... I wish there was a magic word or ritual that would made everything better... Death is one of the hardest things anyone ever has to deal with and I know the pain you feel. I know you hurt so badly right now and you feel that you could have done something and stopped it from happening, but you can't put that on yourself. Death is never anyone's fault and blaming yourself or telling yourself that you could have stopped it will only hurt you more. When my fiance passed away i felt responsible because he was not paying attention to the road, I was on the phone with him and he crashed. I kept telling myself if i hadn't been arguing with him or if i had been in the car like i was suppose to be with him he would have been more careful and it wouldn't have happen. When you blame yourself or try to imagine things happening differently, like if you could have talked to him when he got home that night, your going to drive your self crazy with pain. I know right now its hard to imagine and i know that everyone is probably telling you that it will get better with time. I also know that that's probably the last thing you want to hear over and over again, but i promise... time truly does heal all wounds and somedays you will wake up and you will have a good day where it will not hurt as much, you will be happy and want to smile, and when that happens... SMILE and be happy. When I lost my fiance I felt like it was wrong for me to be happy after I lost him. I felt that if I was happy; That people would think I didn't miss him or I didn't love him enough, but that's not true. The truth is when you feel like that it means your starting to heal. It doesn't mean you care less or you don't miss him, you will always miss him and you will always care. Its been 3 years since I lost my Zac, I remember feeling physically sick, like my insides were on fire, my body physically hurt. Grief is different for everyone and everyone handles things differently, but what is the same for everyone is eventually it does get easier. The best thing i can tell you is what i was told... It's okay to be sad and you can be sad for as long as you need to be sad. It's also okay to feel mad, hurt or any other emotion you may come across, but the most important thing to remember is that it is okay to be happy still and feeling happiness or even just not feeling as sad is a good thing and don't push that feeling away. Don't look at it as a negative feeling or else you will push away every thing that could bring you happiness...

May 08, 2011
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I understand
by: Anonymous

Hey! What you feel at this very moment, I also feel it as I also lost my boyfriend and one other friend on the same day on the 20th February 2011. Even after nearly three months, the pain's still intact and remains unchanged but I guess and hope time will heal. Remember the good times spent by his side and never think he's gone. You'll surely meet him again in another life. Be strong cause he wouldnt like to see you like that, smile because you can, he will always be watching over you and his light will keep on shining down upon you cause you are the one he will always love. Remain brave and keep on going... I know its hard but one thing you should remember is that LIFE GOES ON. He still lives his life through your eyes so try to make the most out of it! May his soul and the souls of my boyfriend and my friend forever rest in peace <3 take care

Mar 24, 2011
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time will give you peace
by: Amber

I'm praying for peace in your heart. There are a million "what if's" for everything, but thats not the way God planned things. Your boyfriend is looking down on you and would want you to be happy. I'm sure he knew how much you loved him. It will never go away, but time will help you find a place of peace. Know that you will be with him again one day. again, I'm praying for you. Be strong and take 1 day at a time.

Feb 22, 2011
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i'm praying for you
by: alycia

i'm praying for you. u are not alone. my husband and i tried to save our neighbors boy who did the same thing. i'm praying for you. i don't know you.
but i'm praying for you .

alycia

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