Self Confident - Be More Confident

Yes, you can definitely be more self confident.

I know you may be asking, "C'mon, how is it possible for me to be a more self confident person?"

I recommend that you explore my main page on the subject and all the links you'll find from there. You'll discover a wealth of ideas on how to think more highly of yourself.

For today, though, I'd like to focus on one simple idea that might just be what you need to start feeling more self assured.

One of the biggest ways you probably sabotage your chances at feeling more inner strength, feeling clearly confident and feeling happier, is your constant focus on what others think about you.

Here's the thing: You've got to realize that most people don't think as much of you as you think they do ;-)

I don't mean that in a negative way. Here's what I mean:

What you must understand is that no one sees that one piece of hair sticking out that is causing you all that anxiety.

No one notices that little spot on your shirt even though you feel like it's flashing like a neon sign.

Nobody really cares that you were up late last night and have bags under your eyes.

Do you see where I'm going with this? I could list a million things that get in the way of your chance to be more self confident.

Taken one by one, these little anxieties you allow into your mind seem trivial. But, when you walk around thinking ten, twenty, or thirty negative thoughts like this, being more confident is the last thing that'll happen for you.

In your mind, you think that after someone leaves your presence, all they're thinking about is that big zit on your forehead. This is the furthest thing from the truth!

Would you like to know what they're really thinking after you walk away?

They're hoping that you didn't notice how they stuttered a bit while talking to you. They hope you don't think they're lame.

This is what I meant when I said people don't think as much about you as you think they do. They're too busy worrying about what you thought of them!

One thing you can do to become more self confident is to make a habit of complimenting others. Whether it's a stranger you just met, a co-worker you see everyday or a family member, make a habit of pointing things out that are positive.

For the next week, compliment someone's hair, clothes, smile, whatever. By doing this, you're helping to alleviate some of their insecurities and helping yourself to forget some of yours.

You'll feel more self confident as you help someone else be more self confident.

Try it, you might just like it!

"Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence."
- Vincent Lombardi
Change your life,

Matt


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